together at last
I’m so glad this infographic exists.
"No single vice causes so much mental and physical debility,” began a section of a popular home medical guide published in 1921, “than masturbation. It impairs the intellect, weakens the memory, debases the mind, ruins the nervous system and destroys body, mind and soul." Its author, Isaac D Johnson, wasn’t saying anything particularly new. At the turn of the 20th century, moral panic about masturbation was so widespread, everyone from the Boy Scouts of America to Kellogg’s – who sold Cornflakes on the basis they were a “non-stimulating” dietary option for adolescent boys – was telling young men to keep their hands out of their pants. Believing it to cause everything from acne to depravity, the anti-masturbation movement saw the creation in 1876 of such devices as the “Stephenson Spermatic Truss”, a metal cage that fitted like a pair of boxer shorts and made an erection physically impossible (or at least, extremely painful). Like something from a Game of Thrones torture scene, there was even, in 1903, the development of an electrified version that would frazzle your penis like a fly if it dared venture upwards.
go read ..
we are attracted to things that reflect our core values, and our deepest understandings of the world, back at us. it’s why we like the art and media that we like, it’s part of why we get crushes on the people we get crushes on, it’s why we re-post what we do on tumblr, and it’s why we are attracted to the porn we are attracted to.
porn doesn’t trick you into being attracted to things you aren’t attracted to. understanding it that way is really problematic. understanding our attractions as windows into our core beliefs and values can become a very valuable thing, because it doesn’t just show us our beliefs we are aware of, it shows us our shadow beliefs as well. porn can be especially useful for this because our relationships with it tend to be based on valence and arousal much more than conscious cognition.
keep in mind that it’s common, and possibly universal, for humans to carry and perform multiple sets of values and beliefs, even conflicting sets of values and beliefs. and that the more ubiquitously we hold a value or and understanding the less likely we are to even be cognitively aware of it. it exists for us more on the level of affects rather than on the level of conscious thoughts.
so porn can be a bridge for pulling our affective reactions into consciousness in order to puzzle out what in our understandings and value systems causes them. doing that will def cause learning and growth for a person. and most likely it will also change what images one is attracted to. it is, in my own experience, a very effective way to do that.
i’m not saying that abstaining from porn is a bad idea though, just that i’ve found it more useful, and ultimately more effective, to change what one is attracted to than it is to try to abstain from attractions. i mean, abstaining from something one is still attracted to takes a lot of energy, but abstaining from something one isn’t attracted to is not a big deal, you know? if there is a way to accomplish the second option it is preferable to the first.
reblogging for the elmerseason insight
The response is extremely insightful.
Remember that time Daleks and Cybermen had sass-off?
THIS IS LITERALLY MY FAVE SCENE FROM DOCTOR WHO EVER I AM NOT EVEN JOKING I AM SO GLAD SOMEONE MADE A POST OF IT I THINK ABOUT THIS MORE OFTEN THAN IS NORMAL UGH IT MAKES ME SO HAPPY
No one sasses better than the Daleks and Cybermen. No one.
so good. Love this so much.
[ding dong, ding dong]
Hello, sir and/or madam! Have you heard the good news?
"It’s not dead. It’s resting."
That is an ex-parrot.
He has ceased to be.
He has expired and gone to meet his maker
He’s probably pining for the fjords
No, no… he’s stunned
Of course he’s NAILED there, otherwise he’s just muscle up to that bridge and go VOOM.
"Weekend" by Ai Wei Wei.
My neighbor’s friend :)